Life is supposed to be hard. Not everything is achieved easily, and as the expression goes: There is no shortcut to any goals worth reaching. However, I do believe there is a shortcut and it’s called being positive and optimistic! You always have a road to go from point A to point B, but with a smile, and eyes on the prize, you might get there faster than the pessimist 🙂
Here are some tips that can help you to gain and maintain the positive outlook on life.
FIND AND KEEP YOUR FOCUS
In order to be positive, you really need to have your eyes set on the prize. There will be some roadblocks on your way, but by having focus, you will overcome them a whole lot easier. Think about what difference your goal makes on a larger scale. If you have a bigger picture in your head it is a lot harder to loose focus.
SURROUND YOURSELF BY OPTIMISTS
If you surround yourself with positive people, then you have a bigger chance of becoming positive as well. Optimism does go viral. If your friends always perceive a glass as half full instead of half empty, you will have higher chances of being and feeling happier than the people surrounded by those who only think about things that could potentially go wrong.
MAKE A TASK PLAN
Once you know your goal, you can work on a task plan. Break down your goal into 10 small steps and when you achieve any of those, give yourself a break from work and a reward. You deserved it. After priding yourself for every step of the way, you will feel better and more confident about your plan.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE
You are unique and comparing yourself to others and their own uniqueness can and will make things utterly complicated. You need to stop watching what everyone else is doing are doing and focus on your goal.
The comparison is the thief of joy!
APPRECIATE YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
By appreciating your beloved ones, you will feel a lot better about yourself and by accepting them as they are with all their flaws and virtues is crucial step in understanding that no one is perfect, but we are all unique and worthy of love. And no matter how bad you mess up at work, your friends and family will always be there for you and that’s gotta count for something.
It is great what meditation can do for you. You can do it anywhere, anytime and you do not need anything but your own mind and body to help you achieve calmness. Try Headspace, Calm or any other app you may like!
Even though sometimes when you are feeling blue the exercising is the last thing on your mind, that can actually help you substantially and get you out of the depression faster than anything else. I know this first hand because depression is something I have been struggling with for a long time.
If you write down all the problems and negative thoughts you have, it will be easier for you to understand when these thoughts come by and what you can do to stop them when they appear. By writing things down you give them less power to occupy your mind and therefore you will solve those issues much faster with a clear head. Makes sense, right?
If you feel like you’ve tried everything and still cannot feel positive about life, do not hesitate to seek help. You shouldn’t be embarrassed because the professional help will show you how to discover the real cause of your stress and how to work on getting better. I tried REBT, PEAT and various types of psychotherapy and I find that it really improved the quality of my life. My best friend is a psychologist so I’ve been her ginny pig for experimenting for years now.
Hope these tips help!