Hey, guys and girls, long time no see! I am still recovering from the tumor surgery that took part in May, and this weather ain’t helping (36 degrees Celsius, 96 Fahrenheit’s). I went to Montenegro for a vacation, but I came back after 2 days because I couldn’t stand the heat and I was constantly dizzy and weak. Anyhow, I have been using the recovery time to chill at home under the AC, so as a result, I’ve spent more time than I usually do reflecting on myself and journaling. I’ve read a book a day for a month, I’ve meditated on Headspace and Calm, played with my pug, reorganized my room, changed my style and cleaned my closet, desktop and so much more. Here are some tips that might inspire you too to introduce a new habit which will end up making you happier.
I’ve been lighting candles that you usually save for a special occasion, using fancy cutlery and ceramic cups to treat myself to a fancy cup of cacao in the morning (Stopped drinking coffee in April) and using a teapot to serve my favorite jasmine tea. And you know what? It worked, it felt amazing and it still does! Not to mention that I was eating copious amounts of dark chocolate with caramel and sea salt, that I had fresh peonies, tulips or roses in my vase every day. The parole was: I chose to spend my money on things that make me smile and I don’t care how ridiculous it may look to someone.
New gelato in town and it is my absolute favorite @coccogelato Favs: Mango, peach, pistachio, and strawberries with champagne 🍦👌Before you chose the flavour, don't forget to decide on which kind of melted chocolate you would like the homemade cornetto to be filled with 🍫 Hedonism all the way! 📸Photo @vesnikproleca
INTRODUCE HEALTHIER HABITS
I would start the morning at 6 am, drink 500ml of turmeric lemonade, hot cocoa with coconut oil and cinnamon and freshly squeezed orange juice and start reading or writing immediately. I would also journal and write at least 2 pages per day about my current thoughts, emotions, friendships, work related stuff, etc. This helped me clear some mental space for new things to come into my life.
SHARING IS CARING
I was sharing the books I was reading and some of my favourite quotes on my Instagram account and people loved it, we reached over 170.000 impressions 🙂 My friend Jack from London told me he was so pleasantly surprised how well read Serbian people are and that made me super duper happy!
BUY LOCAL PRODUCTS
I bought and endorsed local products, some of them were amazing, some were very disappointing, but it always feels good to put your money in the local pocket instead of a global corporation one. Local products I love and support: Impulse Activewear, Wild Bars, Yelka Craft and Cards, ReArt Ceramics, Ciel Officiel, Bespoke Pajamas, Dulsineja Silk Scarfs, Roccolesco Pillows, AllNut Cosmetics, Little Blue Pot Jams, SpiceUp…
SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES TO PEOPLE
As you can probably imagine, I get tons of messages, emails, requests daily and it gets slightly overwhelming from time to time. I simply can not answer all the messages I get all the time and favors you ask me to do for you, because there is not enough time in one day to help everyone. After I finish my daily tasks, help myself, my family and friends, by the time I get to random people online, it is usually bed time. Some people feel I need to answer their private message on Facebook because it is urgent to them! Well, my life is urgent to me and I won’t apologize for that.
Here is an example: You are not my friend and just because you read my content doesn’t make you entitled to use me as your private consultant, life or business coach, unless you pay for that service hourly, which still doesn’t make you my friend, only my client. That gives you priority over 100s of messages I get daily and dedication from my side in your designated time. This still doesn’t mean we are friends, we are going to grab coffees and lunch together and you get to message me all day and expect my answer immediately. I publish free content on this blog, free content on my YouTube, give out tons of useful information in my free webinars and feel free to enjoy it. You can come to my Blogger Workshop or hire me for consulting if you want more interaction with me 1 on 1, but harassing me online is no longer an option.
In June I’ve practiced active listening and inspired my friends to do the same. I kindly asked my friends to turn their phones off or at least put them on silent while they are with me because it disturbs me when someone’s phone is vibrating and constantly asking for attention. I want to look into someone’s eyes, to hear them out, see their facial expression and talk to the person looking back to me, not their gadget.
I always have my phone on silent and all my notifications turned off at all times. I don’t want to give anyone on any social media the power to control my day and time, so I chose when I want to dedicate my time to address all those notifications.
I came up with several cool ideas in June, one of them is Creativity Blogging Workshops for Girls, Serbian Business Ladies Group (Ženska posla) where we can support each other in our ventures, etc. I have organized a Blogger Workshop in Belgrade and Novi Sad. Currently, I am preparing for my talks that I will be giving in Mokrin House and Startit in July where I plan to share some stories I never shared before. New ideas come to your mind when you have spare time when you let your mind wander and become more childlike and carefree.
Follow this rule before you speak or post about something or someone:
Is the thing you are about to say absolutely true and you know it for sure?
Is the thing you are about to say useful to the person you are telling it to?
Is the thing you are about to say positive and with good intentions?
HAVE PATIENCE WITH YOURSELF
I’ve had to learn to have so much patience with myself when I got out from the hospital because daily tasks were and still are such a challenge. I frequently forget that I can’t lift anything over 1kg, that I can’t exercise and I have to pay attention to always have water with me because I feel very so dizzy when I get outside. Whatever you are going through at the moment, have patience with yourself and you will get over the challenges much faster.
SAY HOW YOU FEEL
I’ve learned to say how I feel no matter how that makes other people feel. I told my friend that I believe she treated me like shit and I explained why, and she explained why she acted like that, which was a relief. This just contributed to us having a better relationship, all in all, so I highly recommend telling someone how you feel today.
SPEND TIME IN NATURE
I’ve spent early mornings in nature as much as I could and I planned to go to Uvac, but sadly the weather got too hot for me to go there. But I am making my bucket list for all the natural delights Serbia has to offer that I will be able to experience from October and I recommend you do the same!
If you would really like to be happier in the month of July here are some random happiness tips you should try! My friend Milica and I are going to write down these tips in our journals and make sure we do at least one thing from the list each day. Find your accountability buddy and start today!
RANDOM HAPPINESS TIPS
- Drink 2l of water daily
- Read more books, recommend them, share them with your friends
- Journal daily and write down every night 3 things you are grateful for that day
- Go to any church of your choice or a religious or spiritual place and spend some time there
- Buy and endorse local products instead of large corporations
- Write letters of gratitude to friends and family, even if you don’t plan on giving it to them
- Call your grandparents if and while you still can
- Write about something, anything that is occupying your mind
- Meditate using Calm, Headspace, Reiki, YouTube playlists or anything
- Practice balance in everything you do, balance is the key
- Set emotional boundaries early on and don’t let people pull you around
- Practice active listening, learn to shut up, turn your phone off and listen to what your friend is saying
- Try a new yoga class
- Clean your inbox, room, closet, bathroom, desktop, Dropbox…
- Tackle a nagging task (doctor, dentist, inconvenient call…)
- Quit nagging, snapping or gossiping
- Don’t spread information that is negative, not true or doesn’t have any positive value
- Don’t expect praise or appreciation from anyone, learn to tap yourself on the back
- Give proofs of love while you still can
- Ask for help
- Offer to help
- Enjoy in the now
- Work smart, not hard
- Happy hour every day just for you, do what makes YOU happy for at least for 1h
- Acknowledge the reality of other people’s feelings if you don’t understand them
- Give thanks for both the ordinary and the extraordinary
- Practice patience both with yourself and with others
- Create something new from scratch
- Be childlike
- Approach a stranger
- Ask someone out on a date
- Spend time in nature
- Don’t take anything personally
- Wake up early
- Make a vision board
- Practice saying NO
- Gaze at the stars
- Be real, say how you feel
- Be present
- Make a present for someone you love
Can’t wait to find out how this went for you! Good luck, may the July be the happiest month this year so far!